July 31
July, Thoughts for…
31. How often each day, if you were to verbalize your inner reality at that moment, would you have to say, “I Don’t want to be where I am”? What does it feel like when you don’t want to be where you are?
In cases where it is not appropriate to walk out, “I don’t want to be here” is not only useless but dysfunctional. It makes you and others unhappy.
It has been said: Wherever you go there you are. In other words you are here. Always. Is it so hard to accept that? Eckhart Tolle – Stillness Speaks
30. Can you …
July 3
Review: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
During the break between Spring Semester and Summer B, while I wasn’t teaching for the first time in years, I read the book “Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.” It’s actually a strange story how I came to read it.
Most of my readers know I rarely read fiction. But this book was a long time in coming. I have been into Zen, to various degrees, for more than 20 years. When I was relative neonate to Zen, having only read one or two books, people would always ask “Have you read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance?” I would always answer “no” of course. Then the next time …
June 30
June, Thoughts for the….
29. If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden, or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator. He will not be striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day. W. Beran Wolfe
This seemed to me to be the best quote I could find to end my little dissertation on …
June 16
Review: Get Him to the Greek and Its Portrayal of Addiction
I took my 16 year old out for his birthday (his actual birthday was a while ago, but with our schedules it was tough to schedule a full night alone with him before now). After dinner and some shopping, we discussed seeing a movie. He wanted to see “Get Him to the Greek.” I had read some pretty poor reviews, but had no problem seeing it. The reviews indicated the movie tried to do too much. They felt it aspired to be a comedy in the “Hangover” style but also tried to squeeze in weightier issues like a substance abuse problem and parent issues.
I had recently read another …
June 11
Review and Response: The God Part of the Brain
I initially picked up this book because the back cover presented it as a theory that explained how we create God and spiritual realms to combat our fear of death. As an existential therapist I found this intriguing. In this regard the book did not disappoint.
The book begins with a brief summary of evolution (what argument that did not denounce the existence of a supreme being would be complete without some sort of recognition of evolution?) I found this short (in relation to the amount of years it took for it to occur) history an adequate review, but a bit lengthy. I suppose I assume that any person willing …
June 9
Your Religion is not Important
A colleague shared this Powerpoint presentation with me of a discussion between a theologian and the Dalai Lama. I thought I would share it with my readers.
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May 26
A Meditative Experience
Many therapists advocate the practice of meditation for their clients. The benefits of meditation have been well documented in articles and books. Meditation can assist an individual in controlling their breath, which helps to reduce anxiety by lowering heart rate and blood pressure. There are also chemical reactions in the brain observed in fMRIs which activate parts of the brain associated with relaxation. There has even been some documentation on lasting changes in the brains of those who meditate regularly.
Another way meditation is helpful is through distancing the individual from their thinking. Most therapists, at the very least, will focus to some extent …
May 21
May, Thoughts for…
22. First you try to meditate and after a while you become meditative. J.Kleykamp
I wanted to bring “May is for Metta” to a close with a quote on meditation. I have discussed how beneficial I have found a return to sitting meditation to be to me. I have also said I plan on continuing it. Several year ago I was practicing a mindful sitting meditation pretty regularly. I had an experience I can not begin to describe. It was blissful. I continued the sitting meditation for a short time, …
May 15
Is God becoming Feminine?
I am finishing a book called “The God part of the Brain” (review to follow). In it the author offers a quote by Freud: “God is the exalted father, and the longing for the father is the root of all religion.” The purpose of this article is not to debate the root of religion. When I read this my thoughts went to the recent views of God I have heard and seen. There is a Shaggy song and a Richie Sambora song that ask if God is a woman. There is a Lou Bega song and a speech by Jon Bon Jovi that claims …
April 30
Up in the Air
I recently watched the critically acclaimed movie “Up in the Air.” When it was over and I had time to ruminate about it, I wondered what the point of the movie was. What was the author trying to say about human existence? If you haven’t seen it and plan to, you want to stop reading now. I hope you’ll return following your viewing of it. In this article I will discuss what I found to be the meaning of it film and some of the pivotal moments I believe support my interpretation.
A little while into the movie, George Clooney’s character (Ryan …







