Comments on: Is Marriage an Outdated Institution?

By: William Berry

William Berry — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:55:29 +0000

Thank you for your comment Sabrina. You raise many interesting points, support your theories well.
Thank you again.

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:41:37 +0000

I don’t think it’s outdated, so much as maybe it never really fit to begin with. You mentioned people marrying for other reasons such as economic and support. The idea of marrying for love is a fairly new concept to mankind. I think probably up until the 1920’s people were still marrying for a number of reasons other than love, and it’s easy for us to forget that people are still doing it all around the world today. Mankind is fairly inexperienced when it comes to loving, committed relationships compared to how long we’ve been around.
I like how you stated that for some people it can be a good idea and that it’s important to evaluate your reasons. As far as gay marriage, I’m not going to get into a debate about what’s “right” or not. However, it is interesting that many of the politicians who denounce gay marriage because it is sacred, are the ones getting caught with prostitutes, or having affairs, etc. I don’t think marriage is sacred anymore. It probably never was, its just that before people stayed in situations that made then unhappy because voicing their opinions was unheard of. Nowadays people jump into marriage knowing that divorce is always an option. In my opinion, both of are bad approaches. The most recent comments coming from the gay community are that if they can’t get married, straight people shouldn’t be able to get a divorce. After all, the sanctity of marriage is sacred right? Of course, the very people trying to protect marriage are the ones freaking out about the concept of no divorce.
The high divorce rate comes down to simple math. It takes two people to want to stay together, but only one person, for a couple to break up.

By: William Berry

William Berry — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 17:31:48 +0000

I’m so glad you steer clear of controversy. lol.
Thank you for the comment Oscar.

By: Oscar Orozco

Oscar Orozco — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 17:00:25 +0000

You should take a look at Homer McDonald, author of “Stop your Divorce or Lover’s Rejection.”

I didn’t read the book but I was listening to an interview with the author and he gave out a lot of info as far as what’s in the book. It will give you some insight into human nature and relationships.. attraction. Just to give you a starting point, this guy (after 50 years of experience in marriage counseling) believes that the only effective way to fix a marriage is to have an affair. He also talks about low self-esteem as a cause of many problems in marriages.

Now without attacking me girls… all I have to say is that his views give you insight on human nature and after listening (and because of experience and looking around the world)to him I do have a completely different view on relationships… they are crap! (lol).

By: William Berry

William Berry — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 18:10:50 +0000

Thank you for the comment Auston. I believe there is a type of person that marriage will work for, but I believe the culture is growing in a fashion that it is not making this as likely as in previous generations.
Thank you again for the comment.

By: Auston

Auston — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 16:19:15 +0000

“Likely even the question of marriage being an outdated institution raises eyebrows” – Not mine!

I didn’t read the entire post but, MAN, I DO think marriage is outdated.

When you have a higher likelihood of splitting from the “person you want to spend the rest of your life with” – than you do of getting into a car accident or dying in a plane crash, you have a problem!

I love my girlfriend of 4 years but there are no guarantee’s anything will last FOREVER. So why pretend like that is the case!?

By: Onidia

Onidia — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:10:52 +0000

I don’t think “Variety is the spice of life” in the case of sexual relations because it is very easy to get a sexual disease like Herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, or maybe HIV and then AIDS. Some kinds of condoms don’t protect us against all the infections because some materials allow microscopic organisms to pass and enter in your body. If this occurs, variety is not going to be spicy.

By: personal feelings/biases

personal feelings/biases — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 16:18:48 +0000

Being in a monogomist relationship for many years is the same as being married. Routine takes over after the first few years and the realtionship whether dating or married becomes unexciting.
“VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE”…

By: William Berry

William Berry — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 23:36:34 +0000

Thank you for the comment Eddy. I think that is great advice, although often easier said then done. Congratulations on your ability to pull that off.

By: Eddy

Eddy — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:44:39 +0000

The best thing is be always a boyfriend, it works on me for more than 12 years and with 2 kids.