August 23

Relationship Tides

Posted by William Berry | Filed under Articles | No Comments


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This post was co-written by Dr. Limor Ast, LMFT. It came out of a discussion we had about relationships, and the pattern of approach and then distancing, only to approach again. It combines two theoretical approaches to counseling.

This pattern of approach and distancing is common in relationships. There are “games” newly dating partners engage in. At times this results in one or the other, or perhaps both partners, coming closer and withdrawing to establish that one isn’t more interested than the other. In a video on Facebook posted by philosopher / television personality Jason Silva, he relates a story about people either being cats or dogs. A former lover described him as a cat: someone who wants to cuddle and love when he wants to, but who when he doesn’t, has little to do with his partner. In her seminal book, “Gift From the Sea”, Anne Lindbergh writes, “We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationship. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity…” (p.100).

Read the full post here.

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